Someday mommy and daddy will talk to you about the last 3 months but for now, it just feels good to be back to normal (sort of) and writing a little about our nice, little happy life. It was a tough tough time for me, hands down the hardest time in my life and infinitely more so for Auntie, Babci and Dziadz (and someday your cousins will feel the pain too), but for now, we are all moving forward in 2018, putting pieces back together and starting over. Cuz when life knocks you down, you get up, dust yourself off, you learn from the past, and you keep moving forward. No one ever said it was easy….
Words can’t really describe all the emotions running through to my core these past few months – I hope you never ever feel the gut wrenching feelings I have had that are slowly subsiding but come and go as I work to untangle everything. This truly insane moment in time has taught me so deeply to accept what you cannot change, to literally stop, breath and take moments for me and only me because if you aren’t taking care of yourself you cannot take care of anyone else, and to be so eternally grateful for your supremely wonderful, loving and adoring dad and you kids – the best kids a mom could ever ask for. We really are very lucky. When I was gone in Sept and Oct, your smiling, adorable little faces kept me going. And when I got home and my head was in the clouds or I lost my patience, you didn’t hold it against me for me too long! I know you don’t really get what happened but you do get that Mommy needs to help Auntie right now. Thank you for letting me be there for her and your sweet cousins. And likewise, I promise you I will always be there for you, no matter what, through thick and thin, the highs and lows, the good and bad. I love you kids (and daddy) more than I could ever put into words!!
Meanwhile, back at the barracks, showcasing your resilience and empathy, you kids didn’t really miss a beat this fall and were so good for daddy. The Sheriff is loving 1st Grade with Mrs. D, working on those reading and math skills and loving her friends – little socialite that she is! Never shy or intimidated, she has confidence and a passion for fun and friendship, and also enjoys her “alone time” and of course her TV time! Likewise, our favorite little funny 4 year old is really growing, both physically and emotionally. The fits can be fewer in number these days, but the wit is still strong as ever, as is the continued desire for dresses and sparkles and princesses. There is a glimmer in her eye with her silly goofy spirit that makes you want to bottle up 4 and hold onto it forever. She too loves her friends, and plays hard at school and has stolen her Dino teachers’ hearts too.
You girls both rocked your sports – the sheriff loved Newton girls soccer for the first season, and the Deputy literally ran circles around the boys and girls alike at Garden City soccer. So fun to watch all around!
And just this weekend (12/17), both girls passed Mommy’s deep end test at the Marriott all by themselves swimming from side to side solo.
The Captain graduated from speech and finally started making us laugh with his silly phrases – “and me?” cuz he always thinks we will leave him behind. “Alexa, play fireman sam sheem song.” “wiper towels.” He’s finally potty trained and is obsessed with Daniel Tiger. His dance moves are similar to his father’s and will certainly leave his girlfriends in hysterics someday!
Gearing up for a fun Christmas season and then onto 2018. Thank God…xoxo
Well, the Captain has certainly found his words! “Lexa, play scheme song to Fireman Sam.”
Maybe they were stuck in a closet or hiding under his crib ( which he is still in and now jumps out of at 4am to snuggle with Ace and Joker) but they have appeared. Maybe not always as clear as day, but he has some funny phrases and sure keeps us laughing. There can be no question that the Deputy and Captain – along with their dad- comprise the comedic trio in the family. Ace and the Sheriff make sure the house is full of emotion, fun, sweetness and responsibility. Sometimes with a side of TV and sugar…well, lollipops these days as we try to potty train the heck out of the Captain. Come on buddy – almost there!!
So a new school year has started after a fabulous summer running around New England. The quick hits from the summer were the Deputy learning how to ride a two wheel bike in Maine, the Sheriff worked on reading her fave books, lots of great beach days at DI with friends and fam, our family bucket list complete!, smores with Babs and Achoo, adventure days with Babci & Dziadz, camp at Pomfret for a few days, Auburndale Station, swimming and dock jumping and fishing at the Lake, Friday afternoons with Ace and the kiddos, and so much more. One thing we will never forget was our August of Fun at the barracks with Uncle Rick and Big jack staying with us, and occasionally Corin. “I’m going to throw you in the sink.” So many laughs and good times – and a good preview to life with a pre-teen boy! Yikes!
As we settle back into the school routine, we are more grateful than ever for our family, our home, our support network, and our happy little life in our corner of Auburndale. The Sheriff has Mrs Dickerson in 1st grade, the Deputy is a Dino and the Captain a Pony. The little ones are settling into the routine at ACNS and the Sheriff is loving her new class and all her activities — soccer, Daisies, gymnastics and dance. So much growth transpired this summer and so much more to come this year. Can’t wait to see what is next for these kiddos! xoxo
Some nights, many moons ago, when the Sheriff was just a baby, I read the old classic Goodnight Moon, so many many times in that peaceful little whimsical nursery in Southie that I came to have it memorized. So many precious memories rocking our precious baby girls in that perfect little corner on G Street. Then there was the summer that we lived at the Lake, and we only packed up a handful of books with us that we read over, and over and over again — Moon being one of them, and Blub Blub Fish, and a few George books. In the womb, the Captain must have heard those books hundreds of times!
Tonight was one of those nights where the Captain needed a quick bedtime, having stayed out too late with Joker and the Sheriff at Shake Shake while the Deputy partied in Webster with Babci & Dziadziu and Ace got her hair done. The Captain isn’t one to sit still during books anyways, generally he prefers to jump all over the reader, or his sisters, or run around the room during storytime. And lately, once he’s calm, he’s been wanting to snuggle on his couch, “down there,” before heading to his crib, which inevitably leads to lots of snuggles and maybe even some shut eye for Ace. In lieu of a book in the evening dusk, I found myself reciting Goodnight Moon to him, a move I’ve had to use lately with him to settle him down, along with my famous renditions of “Ballgame” and “Hush Lil Baby” per the Captain’s requests (trust me, no one else ever needs to hear those!). And hey, it counts as reading, even if the book itself is nowhere in sight…right?! Ok, so maybe it’s called listening not reading, but in any event, the Captain knows the words now to Moon, and as he recited them back to me, it made me think back to Southie, the Lake and all those nights of reading this simple kids’ classic to all 3 kiddos. And it made me smile. Goodnight little Sheriff, goodnight little Deputy, goodnight little Captain, Mommy and Daddy love you very much….
The last couple months at the barracks have been pretty quiet, aside from the usual birthdays and parties, winter colds, snow days and snow play, swimming at the Marriott, playdates, ice cream at Cabots with Babci & Dziadziu, movie nights, and basketball. Quiet is good, we need it!!
Oh, I forgot about the quick surprise trip to Disney with the Sheriff and the Deputy so maybe things aren’t so quiet – a perfect little getaway with the little princesses. Hopefully the Captain will forgive us someday for leaving him with the grandparents but we did have a blast on the short trip! The yacht Club compliments of Shire was great, esp the pool and the girls loved meeting Elena and hitting the Frozen ride at Epcot on the last run of the day, though the Deputy still was a little skiddish with the characters. The Sheriff loved Soarin’ with Joker and guess what the Deputy loved — the carousel!! We did 4 parks and one day and felt like Disney rockstars. Lots of quality time with the girls, the Hoop-de-doo Revue again, some great pool time, and just all together a magical time…again for the second time in a year! These girls certainly are lucky….
Hard to believe the Sheriff and Deputy turned 6 and 4. The tea party family party before Babs and Achoo took off for FLA was perfect and Ace loved using the goodies of Great Grandma, Great Babci and Babci for the table’s centerpiece. The girls also enjoyed a wild animal party themed joint bday party with all their friends, hot and sweaty on a warm February Saturday evening at their favorite playspace….still the only place Ace can take all 3 kids and not worry…too much!
These babes of ours are growing up way too fast. So cliched but it feels like yesterday we were bringing them home from Newton Wellesley to Southie. And now we are talking about renovating the Newton barracks, working on sight words and reading, loosing teeth (the Sheriff lost 2 in March!) and laughing at the Deputy’s good humor (she definitely gets it from Joker…”booty butts…Never!!…my mom, she’s all over the place”). The Deputy had her first date with Ian at Shake Shack in March – those two are so damn cute. She claims they will get married some day! So sweet.
Meanwhile the Captain’s words are coming along so well. Putting words together and short sentences. He’s doing great and continues to climb on every counter, table and stool he sees. He’s such a little boy. Annoying his sisters and giving hugs all the time. Such a lovable little guy, his “yeeeeeahs” and “ok mama’s” always make me smile.
While Ace and Joke never know what sleep will look like on any given night, we are making it work and trying to make time for ourselves and each other. We are so lucky…
It’s been a while since I posted. I try for once a month, which, over the holidays I really fell down on, this time. The holidays are amazing. My favorite time of the year, followed closely by a few weeks in August. But they are also exhausting. I used to remember Babci always saying how much work they were but I never really appreciated it. Until now. Here we are knee deep in toddler/little kid life, wanting nothing more but to make the most amazing, magical holiday memories for these munchkins, who, in a few years time, won’t be munchkins anymore, won’t love finding Friday, won’t scream bloody murder at Tuffles at the teddy bear tea or at Santa Claus at Edaville Railroad, won’t believe that Santa only brings 3 gifts, won’t want a laser show for our outdoor decorations, won’t sing christmas songs or read Christmas books until mid January, and won’t be saying cute things like “I’m Polish but I just don’t eat pierogis” (the Deputy). A trip to ATL to visit Auntie and fam, ice skating with Achoo on Christmas Eve, Christmas parties galore, a hotel overnight in Boston with AK, a doll high chair, art easel, telescope and farm set later, the Sheriff, Deputy and Captain had a wonderful Christmas.
All that said, the holidays were a month ago and Joker and I have just about recovered, thanks to a glorious 40th bday getaway to St John for 5 nights. Thank you Babs & Achoo for watching the kiddos, who all got sick and who got you sick. You are total rockstars and we are better parents for it. Pact was made to always get away for a mom and day getaway each year. Good for the soul, good the marriage, good for the everything.
Putting aside the chaos that is now our democracy and holding strong in my faith in the judicial system to make things right, today we had a nice playdate with some Ardini second cousins. Uncle Ted, a father of 3 and grandfather now of 2, shared some words that Ace really could relate to. The odd numbered years are easier than the even numbered one. I love this. I’ve always loved my odd numbered years, of course with the exception of October 2014 when the Captain completed our crew. Graduated from grammar school, high school, college and law school all in odd years. Got married and welcomed the Sheriff and Deputy in odd numbered years. Ages 5, 3 and 1 gave us some hope that we could do this. Ages 6, 4 and 2 are giving us a run for our money and less sleep than we ever thought we’d be getting at this ripe old age. Hitting 40 was not the easiest for Ace and I’m sensing Joker won’t love it either. 39 forever is the motto around here. Whether this odd/even mantra is just coincidence or an alternative fact, I suppose it doesn’t really matter. Make every year count, every month, every day. And here’s to 140 more. Ok, maybe just 60. But who’s counting…
Two years ago today, we brought you home from Newton Wellesley hospital little man. You gave us quite a scare at the beginning there and I remember every second like it was yesterday. And now you are 2. Again, I sit here tonight wearing the same sweatshirt (that breast-milked stained blue zip up hoodie) that I lived in during your 10 day hospital stay and months thereafter. I don’t think I’ll ever throw this one away either.
So we tried again to have the Bardini Octoberfest to celebrate you and our 7 years of marriage and all things fall, but again it rained. We have such bad luck when it comes to parties in October!! Good thing our wedding was so much fun. Made up for the less than stellar weather. Anyways, I digress. Fast forward to today and we still had a fun little party to celebrate YOU – Team Sherry, the grandparents, Vin and Marilyn and of course AK. You cried when we sang to you over Costco cake, but you loved the Mommy-made baseball cake for your actual day — you love balls! Now that’s a word you definitely can say!!
Right now, you are known for being cuddly, happy, totally handsome (“that’s the best looking baby I’ve ever seen” says young guy at mini-golf course in Wells!), and smiley. You love to give warm hugs and snuggle, you are obsessed with Wheels on the Bus aka “bus”, Elmo, balls, and trucks. You like to play with trains, chase your sisters and tape. You won’t sit still to read books but you finally sleep through the night! You climb on everything and are so so strong. You get injured about once a week b/c you play so hard. You love to climb on the piano, stand on the playroom couch arm, and jump. I often say you’d burn the house down if we weren’t watching. You love your avacados, yogurt pouches, nuts and crackers.
You simply are the most adorable little boy in the whole wide world and we are so lucky to have you. We feel so lucky and love you so much!!! Happy 2nd bday JCA!! xoxo
I can’t stop thinking about the night before you were born. I had fettucine alfredo for dinner and made Daddy take a shower about 9pm because the contractions were picking up. I put my favorite Bowdoin sweatshirt on and off we went to Newton and our lives changed forever.
Five and a half years later, you are now sound asleep in our happy home Newton, and I wore that same Bowdoin sweatshirt to the Williams playground on Labor Day when all 5 0f us went to the playground this afternoon. We watched you ride your bike there, we watched you play with your sister and go on to pontificate that the jungle gym wasn’t challenging enough for you! We read a book about books tonight because you were so excited to start school tomorrow, you picked out your outfit, wanted to eat your grapes that were packed in your lunch, and practiced your teacher’s name, Mrs. Mulholland. No one is more ready for school than you sweet girl. You won’t look back and you will love every minute of learning and playing. Your love of life, friends, learning and fun is so pure. You are thoughtful, and kind and a natural leader. You cried like I did when I was your age when you couldn’t make a perfect Number 2. You still want to be a dentist and you said that you’d help the kids reach things that you could. You are not one bit nervous, only excited. You can even do simple math. You are so independent, adaptable and well adjusted. There is no question that you are going to be a star student. You will study so much and work so hard and you will do so well. I just know it. You will do so very well. xoxo
It’s hard to believe that the Sheriff is officially a preschool graduate. She did it, walked the ACNS lawn on Friday June 3 (Great Grandma’s 1st anniversary) and proudly got her diploma wearing her watermelon dress. She sang songs with her friends and recited a poem, after the parents and grandparents were treated to a video montage capturing their fabulous year as Dinos with Dawn & Colleen, and after Ace and the moms shed a bunch of tears. Feels like yesterday we brought her home from the hospital to the G Street barracks. Feels like yesterday she was learning to run around M Street Park and Castle Island. Now she zips down Maple Street on her two wheel bike, plays in her climbing tree or the dog pen pretty much unsupervised, and would run off to any of Newton’s playgrounds to play if we let her. She’s a sweet, kind and sensitive soul. She’s so perceptive and witty and responsible. She is the self-proclaimed “rule follower” in the house and she always thinks about others. She is so ready for kindergarten and she is bound to thrive at Williams. She takes after her mom and does activity workbooks for fun. She can print her name and spell Mom, Dad, Alli and Jack. She can even do basic addition. Go get em Mags! The world is yours…
And ACNS truly is a special place and we are so lucky it’s right down the street from us. Both Maggie and Ace have made great friends there.
The Deputy also got to partake in the graduation day’s fun, and a popsicle at the Cove, but did NOT want her picture taken with her Pony class. Her end of year performance was outstanding, just like her first dance recital where The Lion Sleeps Tonight was the biggest hit. So.darn.cute. The Deputy loves to watch the “bideo” of herself on stage over, and over, and over again. She also likes Ace’s homemade “basagna.”
And the Captain continues to bang around the house in all of his little boy cuteness. Getting teeth has not been easy for the little man, but he’s almost there. He’s working on more words and right now Dada is his favorite, along with “Yeah,” more, my turn, and ball. He loves to point, play with his sisters in the garage and at the playground, play with bubbles, carry around a snack cup in one hand, drink out of a glass by himself, and is finally sleeping through the night and has taken over the status of best sleeper in the house.
The kids all enjoyed a weekend with Joker while Ace went to Nantucket in April, a weekend with Ace while Joker went to Vegas in May, a weekend up in Maine over Memorial Day for the Indy 500, and a weekend in Webster when Ace & Joker went to Mexico for a wedding. Up next is Newport for Joker’s bday but then Ace and Joker are staying put for the summer with the kiddos and will enjoy some down time with them. It’s been a whirlwind spring, filled with lots of travel and fun; it’s always something. And that, my friends, is better than nothing.
What a great trip we had with the whole famdamily (as Joker would say) at the Grand Floridian, the Magic Kingdom, Epcot, Animal Kingdom, and MGM Studios. So grateful for Babs and A-Choo’s generosity for this 40th wedding anniversary celebration trip. Ace and Joker can only hope they will be so lucky to do such a trip with their grown kids and their kids some day!!
A kickoff family dinner at Disney Springs started the trip off so nicely. The Deputy began her love affair with carousels that night and it continued the whole trip. The GF pool was a big hit with the girls on Sunday — the Sheriff did the water slide solo and the Deputy did about 100 jumps without a life jacket. So proud of both of them! And the Captain was a little water bug too — he’d stay in all day if we let him. A huge thanks to AK for all she did the whole trip for us, and esp for the special girls treat of princess pedicures. #sospoiled #bestauntever.
The Hoopty Doo review was awesome on Sunday night! Can’t beat the fried chicken, corn bread and mashed potatoes. Not to mention all the booze you can drink! Best deal in town. And so good, so good! Babs and A-Choo did a little wedding anniversary dance and the kids loved “A-Choo’s friends.” (aka the people in the show). The Sheriff even wanted to get on stage but had to find her way back to the table when they told her the cast had been filled. That girl has so much confidence — love it! #girlpower. Ace also had an early-in-the season reminder about why moms never should wear white jeans. But she will continue to do it again, again and again in the coming months. Thank goodness for bleach.
Monday morning, the princess breakfast in Norway was perfect and all the girls loved having their pictures taken with the leading ladies…and the lack of people at that hour at the park was just divine. So.many.people.pouring through the gates at Disney. It’s truly incredible.
Best part of Epcot may have been the amazing playground! The Captain didn’t want to leave. Except when he and Cousin O were asleep at the wheel and both took a snooze for Babs in the stroller. #strollersnoozesarethebest
The Magic Kingdom of course never disappoints and it was great to be back. The girls had a blast. A special moment for Babs was the all family ride through Small World. No wait, no changes, just like Dziadziu would have had it!
A-Choo especially enjoyed his Dole whips and took the Captain to the Polynesian Tuesday night to share one just with him — so lucky! The Captain also enjoyed eating (someone else’s) gold fish that had spilled all over the ground at the MK — will somebody feed this kid?
Highlights for the girls were the carousel, the tea cups, the race track (esp with Onkle Karsten), Dumbo, staying up late 2 nights at the MK and watching the fireworks, Splash Mountain for Ace and the Sheriff (though Ace teared up at the end regretting having put the Sheriff through that last drop!), the mine train roller coaster for all the Ardini ladies, Peter Pan for the Bardinis, the Sheriff playing the Beast with Belle (the Deputy was a salt shaker), and the Pirates of the Caribbean for the Sheriff (the Deputy made sure everyone at the park knew that “no like Jake.”)
The Captain was a good sport about the whole trip really, and tended to get fussy when his diaper was not yet changed at 3pm each day or when we ran out of yogurt tubes. Or when he lost a cute Polo loafer at Epcot. Can’t really blame the guy. He did try to jump out of the boat into Small World, and got stuck in Space Mountain with Joker. He did go on Dumbo with Ah-Choo and Ariel’s Grotto with Ace and the Sheriff. He even had his own private Mickey and Minnie meeting while the Deputy was passed out in the stroller at Animal Kingdom – so special. He slept in the bathroom and bonded with Cousin O. He rolled with it and we owe him one!
Speaking of characters, the Deputy basically managed to avoid all characters except for princesses and Doc McStuffins. When the Sheriff met Donald at Animal Kingdom, Ace kept the Deputy facing the other way in the stroller. She refused to meet Mickey and Minnie, Donald, Pluto, the Easter Bunny, or any other character along the way really. To each her own! She still had fun!
The Frozen sing- along was worth the price of admission at MGM, and Ace will never ever ever go on that insane Areosmith rocking roller coaster again. But she and Joker did spend about 15 minutes of alone QT with the German kids, fed them ice creams and even managed to keep them clean (“Stacey get me those wipes STAT” yells Joker. Ace had never seen Joker so fired up over wipes before!). They were so proud of themselves. Cousin E reported that her fave part of the trip was seeing the Sheriff and Deputy – #sosweet #cousinlove #deutschland #girlpower. She wants to know when we will be visiting Hamburg — to which Joker replied “when you get married.” Always a Joker!
Thursday night pizza party with Babs and A-Choo was awesome — no parents allowed was the moto! AK, Ace, Joker, Aunt M and Onkle K had a big kids’ night out for sushi. So good and so nice of B&A to babysit.
Ace is going to take it easy on the pictures until this summer — the kids are a little over saying cheese and smiling. But she’s happy to have gotten a few gems from the week long stay. She knows everyone will look back on the trip with great memories and a lot of love. And hopefully Joker will make our kids the same kind of picture booklet with these photos when we return… in 35 years. 🙂
It was a great holiday season and start to 2016 at the barracks. Christmas highlights included the American girl extravaganza with dolls, outfits and accessories abounding, a doll house residing now in the Deputy’s room, fun board games, Elsa hats, Northface jackets, new kicks for the Captain, a fun Christmas Eve at the Lipskis with a quality Yankee Swap, and a great family Christmas at the barracks. The Captain also has been enjoying his trucks, his balls, and his cookies (3rd kid!), as he hugs his way around the house, pointing, shaking his head when you ask him to say Mama, and generally just stealing heart with that sweet smile. He may not say much but he’s such a love bug.
January 2016 brought a new babysitter – April on Mondays and Wednesday mornings, more YMCA basketball with the Ducks and Coach Mommy (love it!), another round of swim classes at Boston College, the Deputy’s start to dance class on Thursdays, a trip to Maine while Ace was in St John for a long girls weekend, and sledding at cousin Caroline’s birthday party!
As for the babysitter payroll, April joins the ranks of Tanya and Rachel in our current mix. Love all of them. Tanya promises free braces for the kids someday. We need that in writing. She’s our local yocal who helps me navigate Williams, Auburndale Station camp and where to sled. Rachel is like Ace’s little sister on Fridays– she’s such a kind soul and so good with the kids. And April is still new but seems great. We are lucky to have such awesome help! Before that we had Cassie for the summer — she was just OK, kinda hard to talk to. Then there was Becky. We loved her and could always tell when she’d gone out boozing the night before. Sweet girl. Just not as motivated as Tanya, that’s for sure!